Singlehood VS Miss Independenthood

Okay Single ladies, lets just get one thing straight, being single does not give you the title Miss independent and being the actual Miss independent doesn't guarantee that you necessarily have to be single. This is not an attack on single women but truth be told am tired of hearing this term "am single and don't need anyone!" and then go on to tell us how you are miss independent because you have no man around to keep you on your toes, you can do whatever you want without having to be answerable to someone. You have the wrong idea about your status as a single woman. Not being single does not necessarily mean that there is someone on the other side barking out rules and orders, it could simply mean there is someone on the other side waiting to hug you after a tough grey day, waiting to make you a cup of tea after you get home from work, someone simply to share this journey with. Don't look at us married women or us in relationships like we are not independent! most of us are independent than most of you out there claiming to be independent.

Don't get me wrong, Women are single for different reasons. Some are widowed, divorced, career women, single mothers, and others have chosen to be single, for their own best reasons and amicable interests. I respect all these women, they work hard and are the kind of women who have the right to use that sacred term: single and miss independent. They get it together, handle their bills, raise their kids,make time for their families and friends.They have responsibilities that they fulfill on a daily basis to run this life smoothly.They are no much different to us, only that we in marriages and relationships have someone to share all that with. By the way where do i put those of us who are not married, Mirs Independent?

What i have a problem with is a certain kind of single lady. This is the one who aggressively wants to own this title of independence, the one who mentions the word every time shes having a drink with her mrs/mirs friends and is quick to add it on when she answers the question on her status. She walks in a bar looking all good, young/old and beautiful/ok, a friend in tow. They sit by the bar so they can have a good view from the high stool. They check out and sort every man, analyze and count their wrinkles for a good "keeper". A keeper, i mean will not keep her for himself but will instead rent her an apartment in an expensive neighbourhood, buy her a nice car, takes her out for expensive dinners and services her when she needs charge. She thinks that so long as she ain't living with someone and her life is moving on swiftly shes miss independent. yea, lets all have a good laugh on that one.

Ok Miss single and independent, this is from Miss rightfully single- independent and Mirs/Mrs taken-independent. If you want to rightfully carry that title, focus on your friends when you sitting on that high stool, present your cleavage decently, may your nipples not almost pop out your top once you see a "keeper", keep your legs together if you are in a short skirt, Independence does not go along with thongs for display. Pay for your own drinks, and drink them..majestically sipping one drink for 5 hours hoping someone will get you a second one is embarrassing. Keep it together, get to know someone well before you know their bank accounts, keep off married men or simply agree to carry the titles, Single and searching, Single and just out to have some fun. simply Single.