Black woman's hair! Look but do not touch!

I came across this advert on Facebook and my brain boiled up! My first reaction was why? Why would anyone pay 2000 ksh and VIP 4000 ticket to sit and chitchat about natural hair? I mean whats the VIP ticket for cos if you can afford 2000 for hair chat event!, you can truelly afford 4000. 

After much amazement and thought, i figured they are up for a tough task! And well intended for that matter, so just forget my first paragraph!, except for the prizes! It should have been free, because only a certain class of women can afford that and if you are trying to encourage a majority.. Well....

I imagine their intentions are to encourage black women to go back to their beautiful natural look and to come,see and find some encouragement on going natural and letting out their Jezebel! I mean their AFRO's!

What is so special about black hair that women are being encouraged to keep it natural! To be honest! Nothing!The problem is, you will hardly find 1 out 10 women walking the streets in Afirca flaunting their AFRO's, why? Because we lost a piece of us as we grew up! We heard loud screams on school mornings cos combs wouldn't go through the hair! It was a painfull experience for us as kids to sit in salon braiding hair! They told us 'Mwendi uthaka ndachayaga'.(meaning if you want to be beautiful, no cries!). So we sat there doing silent cries and watched in envy as the white women just ran a brush through their silky beautiful hair! And that's how the Disaster came about! The Weave/ Wig was born!💀


We flocked salons! We made weave producers and distributers multibillionares and at the same time lost our beautiful hairs! We sadly assumed the universe had come to save us from our entangled hard wire mesh on our heads! We burnt our scalps with chemicals to get silky hairs, we thinned out hair, we watched in horror as weaves swept out the AFRO's, as weaves dangled and smelt under the scorching sun! As the wigs embarrased our women and fell off in public, we heard the men say they like it better silky, we heard them say we were prettier! We lost Afro's and did what the people thought was better! It saddens me!


Today, as the dreadslocks and AFRO's begin to emerge, I am excited for the comeback! And so I will take on to encourage the campaign and tell the young girls their AFRO's are beautiful! It's you!


But please don't forget world! Don't touch my Afro especially out or in an event! I will dodge like you are a bullet! See with your eyes! Appreciate me! Because I took several days to prepare for that outcome! I stressed my partner with my hair drama! I watched countless videos on YouTube and read millions of blogs on how to maintain my Afro! On how to apply egg(yack!) and avocado to grow my hair cos it drags on for years, I had uncomfortable nights with rollers on my head! And your one touch, a second will take me back to square 1! Hear my cry! DO NOT TOUCH MY HAIR! Lol!


Now women in Nairobi, go chit chat and learn about all of it! And don't forget to keep the blogs and YouTube videos coming... Hahaha😀

Comments

  1. Liz Ndegwa06/05/2015, 19:28

    We Africans look absolutely stunning with our natural hair. I'm a big advocate for natural beauty but I only do this by serving as an example. I feel absolutely comfortable with my hair and I cannot have it any other way. It's liberating! We are trying to achieve with weaves what women of other race have naturally. I have not seen any other race buying Afro weaves except for maybe a circus or halloween... and even then it's rare. This has become a very sensitive topic... the society's standard of beauty is long hair light skin... everything is strategically placed because it's all a big business. If there are no flashes of lightness everywhere there would be no hair and bleaching cosmetics business. So our insecurities have created a niche and billions of dollars. If you turn down the sound and look and listen...the "white world loves and affirms itself and we are on constant erasure of our BLACKNESS.

    ReplyDelete
  2. lizettheone06/05/2015, 20:36

    Every well said! Liz.
    Wouldnt have said it better

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The tooth that won't stop fighting!

Image
I woke up this morning at 10am. Elsa the cat could not take a lady sleeping so long so she hopped on me and walked a few times up and down even bringing her nose to my nose to actually be sure am still breathing. I figured the cat must be hungry and became human enough to go downstairs to feed her and her sister who was lying on the mat with that look, 'can't you see am already dead from hunger,' the queen then got up and rubbed herself to my legs and i smilingly, if thats a word, bent down to rub her and served them breakfast. I went around letting light into our sitting room and kitchen, I paused by the window to wonder if it was snowing or raining. I certainly heard drops of rain on the roof, no wonder I snuggled in so long and cosy. It was comforting to realise the weather can't make up its mind. It would rain water a min followed by snow drops. It disappointed me because I had planned that the only productive thing I would do today was to go jogging. Haha, to me...
Read more

MY COVID PATIENTS- AN ICU NURSE-STAY HOME!

Image
I am a nurse in an ICU in London. This is a story of my experiences with patients. I know out there  they are just another statistic but to us, they are patients, dads, mums, brothers, sisters, grandparents, friends, Humans..People. People who were just going about their business before they somehow got into contact with someone infected by the virus. People who are now fighting for their lives in hospital. People who know me know that am such a people person, I have such interest in people and because of this i end up feeling such sadness  on terrible stories or being extremely happy on success stories. I am such a reader of autobiographies or books based on real life stories. So are most of the movies I watch. This explains why, I carry this so heavy, why most of my dreams are about my work at this particular pandemic time. My first Covid patient was a lucky man, I just so happened to be at work on my birthday. I was bit annoyed for having t...
Read more

Look at Her! Feel Her!

Image
You're invited somewhere famous for a Sunday morning walk. You had been very active then and had nothing better to do than catch up with friends on long walks in your Motherland where you are now a visitor. Early Sunday morning ! Your Friend's friends arrive and introductions are civil. You note one, no eye contact. You feel her presence. In this glorious walk, admist tall bold trees, you see her, you do not talk, you feel her.  You look at the bright blue skies, you soak in the sun. The sun is literally shining on your face because you can feel her presence, you do not talk to her. You are in awe. You do not talk to her. The walk ends. Catastrophe! You panic silently!. How can this end and you haven't talked to her, what if you never see her again? You see her, but do not talk o her. A smart person proposes Lunch! Thank the universe for smart people. I think of it as a women empowerment lunch because all these women had moved back to Motherland and I wanted to hear their e...
Read more