Parents leaving their kids insearch of greener pastures!

If you come form a 3rd world country, then you know what i am talking about! This breaks my heart but unfortunately while some say fortunately, sometimes its the only way to get yourself and your kids out of poverty or for least to get them an education hoping that they can sort their lives. We all want whats best for our children and i can assure you that there is no parent in their right mind that would be content to leave their kids behind for no particular reason. I know this happens alot and lots of people have no understanding of it.

When i moved to Finland, i shared my apartment with one of my now closest friends, she had come to seek an education and a better life just like i did! She left her daughter in the Care of her mum, bless her! Most people in our new country did not understand why and how she could leave her kid behind, some even thought it was out of this world! But when you have it good and never walked in any of those shoes! Believe me you will never understand it! You will be entitled to your opinion but you are not allowed to judge it out on someone!

I watched my friend many nights sit and look up to the ceiling and sometimes break for how much she missed her daughter, it broke me sometimes, but today as i watch her now teenage daughter having a good life eventually reunited with her mum! It was all worth it! And if she never made that 4 year sacrifice, only the universal knows at what corner of Nairobi they would be trying each day at a time! I Salute you my friend! I have been very happy for you.
My friend Annie, and her beautiful daughter now, their smiles tell it all.

Moving to Saudi Arabia opened up this topic for me, i have walked past alot of women from Asia red eyed, probably from all the crying all night in the miss of their kids back home. They are constantly flipping through their mobile phones and sadly smiling and they go through pictures of their kids! They miss them, it aches and our suprised looks when they mention the age of their kids is killing them softly!. One actually made it clear to someone ''its different for you and me! And i know life is different, it will always be different and there are problems of the 3rd world countries that will never be understood by 1st world countries'.

If all these mums moving to work abroad were allowed to take their children with them, believe me nobody would leave their kids behind.but most of the time its a single visa and you have to make that tough decision! There are many sleepless nights and i believe its the last option, you carry your heavy heart while you leave half of it behind.

I was one of the unfortunate or do i say fortunate kids left behind!  It is hash for a child and sad! I think they miss the mum more than anyone can imagine but kids dont know how to explain! I stood for hours by the gate waiting for my mum on her days of arrival. If it was school day, i swear i understood nothing that day and i ran anxiously home!. I would not go to bed trying to make up for the time lost and for the time she leaves again, i had a great time with my grandparents! Bless them!! For 3.5 years, my mum had the hardest time but today i can tell you it was worth it! Before she got a scholarship to be trained as an accoutant, she was working in a Store and weekends she helped around the rich for small pennies. If she had choosen to stay, i would be now roaming around the rich helping them inexchange for a few pennies! I would be wrinkled at my young age from frustration! Yea! I get it! I dont justify but i totally get it! And when i look at my life today! All those tears for those 3.5 years were totally worth it.

When you come from well abled countries, count your blessings, never take your goverments for granted and be thankfull every single day! When you get some money from your goverment to help you out with the kids, when you get those packages before birth! When you can go crying and be sorted by them, be glad because other mothers out there know nothing about that and have no goverments to help to because their goverments are run by greedy idiots! 

And please dont go asking why they got a kid they cant take Care of! Sometimes i also ignore and ask them same question, then rewind and think, its not fair for any woman to be denied the right to be a mum just because they landed in the exploited countries! It was not her choice, nobody chose where they were born! That being said, i did not say because everyone has a right to be a mother, you can fill the Earth! Stop! Think!


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